2. Don't believe everything he tells you. Make sure you have reliable information about him and check the facts.
3. Don't cake yourself in make up to decieve him into thinking he's marrying a hoor al 'ayn who exits on Earth.
4. Don't let your father do all the talking. Conversate, it's your chance to get to know him.
5. Don't pretend to be really shy. Come on now, you need to talk or he will eventually find you boring.
6. Don't be covered in a massive huge black jilbab or niqab. He is allowed to see you in normal modest clothing.
7. Don't disagree with what his mother is saying to you (in the meeting)
8. Don't call his father by his name. Call him "uncle".
9. Don't talk excessively. You should remember to maintain your hayaa.
10. Don't invite your friends to your house on the day of the meeting. He will blatantly hear them giggling in the hallway.
11. Don't ramble on about the dowry. The dowry should be 10% of the convo.
12. Don't outclass his mother on the quality of the food. If you do, well, it will be difficult for you.
13. Don't have your phone or BB messenger switched on. It can be very tempting to text your friend how well the meeting is going - but he will see.
14. Don't forget to ask to pour the tea. Better yet, just go ahead and do it!
15. Don't walk late into the meeting. He will think that you spent the time trying to beautify yourself for him. When really, you were just nervous.
16. Don't call him akhi. He is your potential husband.
17. Don't laugh too much. He might see teeth and turn you down.
18. Don't giggle and act blonde, show him what you got in there (the brain).
19. Don't act humble by lowering your gaze, you should be looking at him. But, don't stare at him like you stare in the mirror.
20. Don't shake or fall over when you're bringing the tea and biscuits. Breathing in and out and small steps go a long way.
*BONUS*
21. Don't excessively kiss your teeths in front of the parents or they may think you're an ex-gang leader. In fact, refrain from all sorts of ganster-like speech.
http://zawajland.blogspot.com/
10. Don't invite your friends to your house on the day of the meeting. He will blatantly hear them giggling in the hallway.
11. Don't ramble on about the dowry. The dowry should be 10% of the convo.
12. Don't outclass his mother on the quality of the food. If you do, well, it will be difficult for you.
13. Don't have your phone or BB messenger switched on. It can be very tempting to text your friend how well the meeting is going - but he will see.
14. Don't forget to ask to pour the tea. Better yet, just go ahead and do it!
15. Don't walk late into the meeting. He will think that you spent the time trying to beautify yourself for him. When really, you were just nervous.
16. Don't call him akhi. He is your potential husband.
17. Don't laugh too much. He might see teeth and turn you down.
18. Don't giggle and act blonde, show him what you got in there (the brain).
19. Don't act humble by lowering your gaze, you should be looking at him. But, don't stare at him like you stare in the mirror.
20. Don't shake or fall over when you're bringing the tea and biscuits. Breathing in and out and small steps go a long way.
*BONUS*
21. Don't excessively kiss your teeths in front of the parents or they may think you're an ex-gang leader. In fact, refrain from all sorts of ganster-like speech.
http://zawajland.blogspot.com/
Asslamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh!
ReplyDeleteWow masha Allah! I think that's really gonna help us on the roadtrip to Zawjland.. :)
Jazaki Allahu Khairaan! <3
SubhanAllah! I've just been through all the inevitably awkward meetings and formal visits for the past year - why did noone give me this list before?!?!?! :-O but even though i know for sure i could've done with some of these tips, ALHAMDULILLAH i somehow managed to impress a brother and his family and by the grace of Allah will have my Nikah next Saturday - just one week insha'Allah!! *^_^*
ReplyDeleteI just stumbled across this blog today but i can totally relate, what with having got to almost the end of my journey of finding a partner - next step will be getting through the first week living with another person insha'Allah! I love the blog - keep writing and I will spread the word - I know many sisters just starting out on their journeys!! ;)
May Allah reward your efforts. Ameen.
Asalamu alaikum Umm Zaid!
ReplyDeleteAllahumma ameen to your duaa.
Aww masha' Allah, by the Grace of Allah your Nikah will have gone well, if it was this Saturday - if it's the next, may Allah make it successful and stressfree. May He (SWT) bestow His Mercy upon you and your husband (to be)
Barak Allaah feeki sis, we really appreciate your lovely comment and we hope that our feelings and experiences can bring us together as sisters in Deen.
Take care ukhtee, bi idhnilLaah we'd like to hear back from you as a married woman :)