Assalam 'aleykum waRahmatullaahi waBarakatuh everyone,
Ahlan wa Sahlan after what seemed like years and years.. of not updating the blog but hey, I always get amazed to see how many people regurlarly visit this blog on a d.a.i..l.y basis.
I had never imagined in my wildest dreams that people from all over the world would be reading my articles on Zawaj and find them interesting or beneficial..
Aaaah, this blog will make me famous one day *dreams away*
Journalist: 'So, Umm Z., how did you get this brilliant idea of starting Zawajland?
Me: If you knew how this all started.. a night, a friend, an idea and BOOM a blog!'
It's been nearly three years since this blog was created, a few articles, some criticisms (oh well!), lots of encouragements (oh yes!), my anonymity lost (oh noo!) but it's still going on.
However, I am not that naive to think that most of you guys are reading this because you're interested in what I have to say but most of you read this blog because it's all about marriage (you know that I'm right)
I'm pretty convinced if this blog was aimed towards other religious aspects .. it wouldn't be so popular. Kinda sad really.
And this leads to today's article.. why can't we be happy and single?!
- Why can't we just be happy to be single?
- Why do we always have to talk about marriage in our gatherings?
- Why are we constantly thinking about marriage?
- Why are brothers always standing in front of the masajids?
- Why are sisters not lowering their gazes?
- Why are we not happy with the Qadr of Allaah?
- Why do I have a blog on marriage?
- Why do you read my articles?
- Why aren't we happy to live with our parents?
- Why do we idealise our future spouse so much?
- Why do we have unrealistic expectations?
- Why are so short-sighted?
- Why are we so confused about love?
- Why are we so afraid of growing old alone?
Why, why & why?
Because we are never happy with what we have (most of us anyway) and for brothers even when they eventually get married, guess WHAT? And sisters who constantly fantasise about a bearded prince if they knew how chilled out life is at their momma and daddy's house, guess WHAT?
No, actually forget it!
All I'm trying to say here is that we should concentrate on things that are more important like improving our ownselves, seeking knowledge, being dutiful to our parents, being concerned with the Ummah. Marriage is not something we control so leave it up to the One who controls all things *simple*.
Being single is a blessing in itself that most of us do not realise, we all want to rush towards something that were it not for the Mercy of Allaah, we could have flopped and messed up. REAL BAD.
Now, I'm not saying we shouldn't get married (come on, that would be contradicting my blog!), just that it's not necessary to worry too much about it or to have 1000 theoretical discussions on who you think is the ideal husband/wife.
I know that this advice may not sound very appealing to a lot of you because the shahaawat (desires) are burning you and taking over your rational mind at times, if that is the case listen to what the Lord says in Surah Noor; verse 33:
'And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His Bounty'
Yes! Remaining chaste (physically, mentally) will help you be happy & single.
I will leave you with these last words to think about and ponder over:
Love is overrated. We are blinded by what we see from people surrounding us but if we were to open our eyes, we would surely see what real Love is.
I ask you by Allaah, have you seen a Love more pure, genuine, wholesome than the Love Allaah has for you?
I don't want to depress you but some of the greatest Islamic Scholars never got married, they had found the purest of Love.. they didn't need anything else...
Why do we?
Subhanaka Allaahuma, astaghfirullaahi wa atouubu ilayh.
Ila liqaa
